provide an opportunity for an opponent to speak more accurately. I have experienced this in my own home. I have noticed that my wife sometimes says things like, ‘You never empty the wastebasket.’ Now as a matter of fact, on January 12, 1994, I did empty the wastebasket. Therefore, the word never is inappropriate! This tends to weaken the force of my wife’s reproach. Well, I’ve learned that I don’t get anywhere by pressing this point. This kind of response does not provide dividends of joy and peace